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5 Pieces of Advice For Parents After Graduation Day

Here are 5 ways to navigate your relationship with your graduate.

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Graduation day marks the end of one chapter and the beginning of another for both parents and their children. It’s natural to experience a mix of emotions as your child transitions into adulthood.  

During this phase, it’s essential to navigate your relationship with your child with care, understanding, and support. Here are 5 pieces of advice for parents of high school graduates: 

1. Communicate openly 

Ensure that your child feels comfortable talking about their goals, dreams, and concerns with you. When you disagree, it’s important to remember that your child is doing their best to navigate their newfound independence.  

You can establish a strong, trusting bond by listening attentively and without judgment. It may be helpful to discuss and agree on how frequently the two of you will connect and check in with each other by asking your child:

  • How often would you like me to check in?
  • Would you prefer a call or text?

2. Encourage independence and responsibility 

High school graduation symbolizes the transition into adulthood, and with it comes increased independence and responsibility for your child. It is crucial to encourage and support your graduate in embracing these newfound aspects of their life.  

Give them the space to make decisions, take risks, and learn from their experiences. Provide guidance, but also allow them to own their choices and actions. Balancing support and independence will empower your child to develop crucial life skills and grow into a self-reliant adult. Here are some questions to ask: 

  • What are some ways that I can support you as you make big decisions in this next chapter?
  • What are some items coming up that you’re excited about?
  • What are you nervous or hesitant about?

3. Adapt to changing roles 

After graduation, your relationship with your child will naturally evolve from an authoritative role to that of a trusted advisor.  It is important to recognize and adapt to these changing roles. As your child steps into adulthood, they will require more autonomy, decision-making power, and self-discovery.  

Respect their growing independence, while still providing guidance and support when needed. This transition will require flexibility, understanding, and a willingness to let your relationship change. It may be helpful to assure your child: 

  • I’m excited for you as you venture into this next chapter.
  • I love who you’re becoming.
  • I will be here no matter what.

4. Support their career and education choices 

Help your child explore different career paths. Discuss their interests and provide guidance on the practical aspects of their chosen field. Cultivate an environment where your child feels empowered to chase their dreams, knowing that you are their biggest cheerleader. Be there to celebrate their successes and offer comfort during setbacks.  

You can help your child navigate their decisions by asking: 

  • What do you like to do? 
  • If money wasn’t an object, what would you do to fill your time? (This can clarify what their passion points are.) 
  • Do you think this career path is sustainable in the long run? 

Most importantly, encourage your child to explore and lean into their God-given purpose. According to Ephesians 2:10, we are God’s masterpiece and he notes in Jeremiah 29:11 that he has great plans for us! 

5. Promote self-care and emotional well-being 

The transition from high school to adulthood can be overwhelming for a young adult. Encourage them to engage in activities that bring them joy and provide stress relief. Teach them the importance of maintaining a healthy work-life balance. Encourage them to find a way to connect with God daily.   

Emphasize the importance of mental health and support them in seeking professional help, if needed. Remember to take care of yourself, too, as you navigate this new stage with your child. 

Try these ideas to take care of yourself and your child: 

  • Get outdoors and take a walk together. Allow them to process what they’re experiencing. 
  • Go on coffee dates to catch up. 
  • Welcome them to relax and take a load off when they visit home. 

Graduation day is not an ending but rather a new beginning, both for your child and for your relationship with them. Cherish the memories you have created together and embrace the exciting journey that lies ahead. Congratulations to both parents and graduates on this remarkable milestone, and may your futures be filled with joy, growth, and endless possibilities. 

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