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What to Do When Life Feels Out of Control

Lots of us know what it’s like to feel stuck in life. Jesus is still present in your struggle, and seeking him out gives us the anchor we need.

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 Lots of us know what it’s like to feel stuck in life. Maybe you’re dealing with the consequences of your past actions or trapped in a pattern of shame. Maybe you’re in the middle of a situation that’s beyond your control, and you’re grasping at straws trying to get your life back on track. 

In these situations, it’s easy to feel like Jesus has turned his back on you. But Jesus never stops pursuing us, even when it feels like life is getting out of control. By continuing to seek Jesus out and stay close to him, we can find the anchor we desperately need when it gets harder to hang on. 

What to do when life feels out of control 

Jesus may be harder to see when we feel stuck in life, but that doesn’t mean he’s walked away. In fact, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Jesus is still present, and he’s inviting you to stay close to him. When we do that, we gain peace, faith, and hope that we desperately need during a tough time. 

When life feels out of your control, here’s how to stay close to Jesus.  

Let go of your expectations 

Sometimes we feel like Jesus has abandoned us because we aren’t getting the things we’re praying for. If finances are tight, you might be praying for a raise or a higher-paying job. You may be anxious about your child’s health and pray for sudden and complete healing. With relationship troubles, your prayer might be for reconciliation with that person. 

You probably know what it’s like to pray for those things and not see the outcome you were hoping for. But just because your prayers weren’t answered exactly like you hoped doesn’t mean they were ignored. Jesus knows our needs better than we do ourselves, and he always gives us what we need – even if it’s not what we thought we wanted. For example: 

  • Jesus may not give you a higher-paying job, but he might ensure you have just enough to cover a crucial bill. 
  • Jesus might not prevent your child from getting sick, but he could bring a new friend into your life who understands and supports you. 
  • Jesus might not restore a broken relationship, but he might give you the chance to build a loving relationship with someone new. 

Look back on your life. When was the last time you felt like a prayer went unanswered. Can you think of ways Jesus might have come through for you that didn’t match up to what you were asking for?  

Remember there’s a purpose 

Sometimes, God lets us sit in our difficult moments to prepare us for future challenges. These times of feeling stuck can actually be blessings in disguise, shaping us for what lies ahead. 

As Priscilla Shirer beautifully puts it, our difficulties are not always about Satan being against us but about God being for us. God uses difficult moments to grow us, get rid of the things that hold us back, and show his glory through us. 

Shirer also says, "Emptiness makes room for the fullness of God in your life." Our trials are never in vain. As Romans 8:28 reminds us, all things work together for the good of those who love God. 

Reconnect with Jesus 

When life feels out of control, it’s normal to feel mad at Jesus. But what do we do when we’re upset with someone? Usually, we create distance. 

Sometimes, we go so long without spending time with Jesus that we become blind to his presence in our lives. But seeking Jesus out is the key to staying aware of his nearness. After all, whatever you look for, you’ll find. If you’re looking for the good in your situation, you’ll find it. If you’re looking for reasons to feel despair, you’ll find them. And if you’re looking for Jesus, you’ll see him. 

Here are some ways to seek Jesus out when life feels out of control: 

  • Sit quietly and play worship music
  • Take a walk without distractions and talk to Jesus. 
  • Journal about your feelings honestly. 
  • Open your Bible with an open heart to receive God’s message. 

Ultimately, dealing with the uncertainties and frustrations of life requires a shift in perspective. The good news is Jesus is ready to help with that! Simply ask him to help you see his work in your life and what he may be doing through these circumstances.  

Remember, Jesus' promise stands: "When you go through deep waters, I will be with you; when you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown; when you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you” (Isaiah 43:2). 


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